Where’d the Grit and Resilience Go?

How familiar does this sentiment sound? Kids nowadays, they just seem so fragile and lack the grit and resilience of predecessors. What happened? Some may say, “Kids are too coddled” (maybe). Others may say, “The education system (K-12) doesn’t prepare students enough for college and the workforce.” We could list factors for days, but let’s look into two main factors and — most importantly — a solution.

After Effects of the Economic Recession:

Although the economic recession was almost a decade ago, the effects of losing jobs, homes, retirement, and lifestyle changes are partly seen on the current generation of high schoolers. Parents are extra sensitive to making sure their children have the perfect resume for college applications and thus can become overbearing and coddling. Thoughts such as, “Is my kid taking advantage of every opportunity, sports, music, volunteer gig?” are constantly on their mind. As parents perceive an ever-increasing competitive landscape and the margin for error appearing limited, they “take over” for their kids. This has only encouraged more parents to follow suit due to the perceived competitive landscape. The pressure to have a picture-perfect resume can become overwhelming and cause anxiety in not only the parent but also the child. That being said, who can really blame parents for being excessively-concerned for their children? Losing jobs, homes, and security due to the recession can cause such anxiety.

What Do You Mean I Need to be More Resilient?

When a student is told, “You need to be more resilient,” what exactly does that mean? Does that mean, grow a backbone, suck it up, or simply not to take criticism personally? Oftentimes, the case is the latter, but because students often see the word resilient as a synonym for strength, they therefore feel that lacking resilience is a sign of weakness. Students are dealing with increasing prospective college tuition fees, increasing competition, and — unlike previous generations — pressures from social media. Add to the fact that high schoolers are developing their communication skills, the message, “You need to be more resilient” leads to even more inner-turmoil.

The Solution? Positive Thinking Skills.

Let’s face it, academic, extracurricular, and social pressures are at an all-time high. Thus we need to provide a more mentor-like role in assisting kids to alleviate these issues. Simply saying, “Be more resilient, or toughen up” isn’t going to cut it — kids already hear enough words on social media anyway.  Instead, spend time with the kids to learn how to alleviate the stress of demanding classes and tests, the hurtful comments left on their Facebook wall, or simply not feeling good enough.

With these issues in mind, Education Lifeskills has created a Positive Thinking Skills course that help students successfully navigate their teenage years into adulthood. The course addresses many common thinking errors associated with anger, low self-esteem, and self-justification.

Infinity – Media Awareness Course: Helping Students Avoid Technology Addictions

Technology can be a good resource or it can turn into an addiction. Today’s students are surrounded by technology in each classroom , it is nearly impossible for a student to avoid the internet on their campus. It has been reported that teenagers are spending, on average, 9 hours a day with some type of media and most of that time is used with some type of screen.

Education Lifeskill’s Infinity – Media Awareness Course helps students increase their awareness and responsibility regarding their personal media consumption. The course addresses gaming addictions, cyber-bullying, social media addiction and the dangers of sexting. The stories and examples in this course put the student at a point of choice through the time-tested technique of cognitive dissonance.

We recognize that students need core curriculum, however, internet and media addictions are limiting today’s students academic and personal success. This is a timely course that is designed for junior high and high school students.

Announcing New Course: Positive Thinking Skills – Helping Students To Think Successfully

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Did you know that every 26 seconds a new student drops out of school? That is 7,000 students a day or 1.2 million students pear year. It has also been reported that the drop outs account for about 75% of the crimes. This trend has become labeled as the school to prison pipeline. See more statistics.

More and more of today’s students lack grit and resiliency. Which is to say that the younger generation is deficient in thinking skills for facing and overcoming adversity in any form. This is reflected in the increase of drop out rates and the host of related issues that schools are dealing with such as truancy and negative classroom behavior.

To address the heaving hitting issues that exist in our schools today, we must use a strong cognitive behavioral approach. By only addressing the negative behavior without addressing the underlying thinking errors we will not experience a sustainable solution. Not until we have an impact on the subconscious mind and help students through the process self-directed learning and self-discovery will we see unwanted behaviors decline. It is also important to understand that educating students is not strong enough either. It is not uncommon for a student to understand that certain behaviors are wrong but they still lack the ability to make the change on their own.

The Positive Thinking Skills Course is an excellent way to challenge common thinking errors with students without confronting them or provoking their resistance. This course is based on 4 decades of refinement from ACCI Lifeskills. The time test tested evidence-based principles of cognitive restructuring are immersed throughout the entire course. This course is available in both workbook and eLearning formats. Learn more about this course.

Visit Us At The CEC 2017 Convention In Boston

Education Lifeskills will be attending the CEC Convention & Expo as an exhibitor. This conference will be held between April 19-22 in Boston, MA at the John B Hynes Veterans Memorial Convention Center. We will be located at booth 605 in the exhibit hall and will have both our printed and eLearning courses on display.

This conference brings together educators, providers, policy makers and key stake holders that are focused on increasing outcomes for special needs students. This focus includes those students who exhibit at risk thoughts and behaviors.

Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with us and learn how or 40 years of experience in developing and delivery evidence-based cognitive life skills courses and programs can assist the students at your campus can achieve greater personal and academic success.